As is expected in the world of finance, as soon as I start talking about something the rest of the community decides they should talk about it too. Yes I’m that arrogant.
As many of you know I am getting married this fall to the beautiful and majestic Sheconomist. She’s got all that wedding planning stuff going on that girls love to do, but that doesn’t leave me with much to worry about. So I get to think about money.
Growing up I always expected to get married and have a joint account with my wife. This is what my parents have done and it works well for them. In my mind any other method shows some degree of mistrust. Though my future wife might disagree, I know when it’s time to open my mind a bit and see if my perceptions are wrong and need to be corrected. I took my thoughts to my good friend Tabitha at From Single To Married to see what her reader base might say. Since her blog has an audience of married types I thought it would be a good place to start. Have a read at my guest post over there called “Getting Hitched? Should You Hitch Your Money Too?“. Make sure you check out the comments from Tabitha’s readers.
Next I want you to check out two posts from other bloggers that have posed similar questions to their readers. Again the comments are what you’re really after if the discussion interests you:
Married With Separate Finances: I Just Don’t Get It
Your Take: Joint or Separate Coupled Finances?
Both of these guys mention the Personal Finance Hour which is an internet radio show you should listen to. It’s obvious the inspiration came from me. But that doesn’t matter.
Now that you’ve read up I want to open the Weakonomics doors to you. What are your feelings about joint vs separate accounts for married couples? What do you do? What would you do? What did you parents do?

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My husband and I have joint accounts. For one thing, it’s less to keep up with. (Even if you have a separate account, you still need some level of accessibility in case of an emergency with your partner.)
For us, the biggest reason to have a joint account is due to the fact that my husband is terrible with money. The month before we were married, he had 4 bounced checks. :O
I decided at that moment that I needed to help him get organized. So while doing that, he made the comment that I should just “do the finances”. 5 years in and I’m still doing them on a day to day basis. Altho he knows what is going on. I show him how the money was spent that week.
His father is very sneaky with money, and would never tell his wife what he had where (usually had a few hundred dollars in his wallet, but admitted to his wife he only had $50). In the past, any time my husband would ask about our checking account, his father would belittle him saying that it was like he was asking for permission. The fact of the matter is, we focused very much on paying our bills each month, and had very little left over at the end of the month, but his dad kept getting their lights cut off, and cars repossessed. So the reason for Kalvin asking is because he had been kept in the loop all month knowing that money was tight for bills, and when time came for a purchase, to reaffirm the fact that we did or did not have the money, he asked me. His dad never got that. It’s about communication (something they didn’t have a lot of).
If the money is there, he spends it. If not, he doesn’t.
We aren’t the type of people to say – “You spent X amount, now I get to spend X amount too.” We just get what we need/want, when we can.
And finally, as mentioned before, in case of an emergency, it just makes it easier so that the other person already has access to the accounts.
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